Children must be able to name the different parts of the body, including their sexual areas: the penis, vagina, buttocks … with words that they are not afraid to say in front of adults. These words should not be considered dirty, lewd or impertinent. Children must learn to identify private and intimate areas in order to respect those areas on their own bodies and on those of others.
Children must know that they can confide in adults, and that adults are available to listen to them; they must know that they have the right to refuse any action, including from you, that hurts or scares them. They must say something when they feel sad or uncomfortable.
Refer to age-appropriate books for your children to help them understand that sexual relations between two consenting adults are enjoyable and fulfilling.